How can I stop my dad constantly drilling me about “healthy eating”?

Tell your dad your not training for anything. You don’t need all the protein, complex carbs and good fats all the time cuz your not going to the gym.

So remind yourself that the problem is not you, it is your dad’s problem.

The other thing is, even though this is annoying, if it is the worst thing your dad does, then you should thank God (or whoever you believe in) for giving you such a great life. Most questions I answer on here are from people who are being abused, or whose partners are cheating on them, or who are getting bullied. So if the worst thing in your life is that your dad nags about food, you’re pretty lucky.

It is hard to change bad habits, so unfortunately, it is unlikely that you’ll stop your dad from going on about food. As you go through life, you will find that people who have addictions (and food can be an addiction, just like cheating or alcohol or drugs) find it hard to get over them. My guess is that your dad is CONSTANTLY fighting his desire for food. Food takes up a huge amount of his brain. So he talks about it all the time…

What you can say (but it probably won’t work!) is, “Dad, it is so great you lost that weight. But you are driving us crazy. WE do not have weight issues. You are giving us complexes because you are making us paranoid about food. You need to understand that food is YOUR problem, not ours. Please STOP commenting on my diet and stop controlling it. When you comment, I feel like going out and ordering a huge hamburger and fries.”

Then in future when he comments, simply say, “we have talked about this. Food is your problem, not mine. I’m not listening to you. Stop policing my food.” Then walk away or ignore him.

Good luck.

Maybe you can write him a letter expressing your true feelings and ask him to read it before during his own personal time. Then, when he sees you again at the end of the day, you two can discuss it.

Sounds like both of you need to communicate a little better by being honest and trying to understand one anothers feelings and opinions.

It would be to easy to be like “You know what dad . . . seeing as it is your birthday I’ll try my best to make it there on Tuesday” Instead she made your fathers birthday about herself and how SHE feels let down and unappreciated.

You need to have a serious talk with her. People can’t tell what she is thinking unless she says. And behaving like a total B!tch isn’t going to make people want to be around her.

I just saw your edit. I have a 16 year old sister. We have the same mother but different fathers. now I have literally my mum and older sister. That is my family. Where as my little sister has her dads side of family (There are loads of them) yet she behaves like she is the cast out. The one sister that no one cares or loves etc. But when it comes down to it, the reason people avoid her is because she has a chip on her shoulder like the world owes her a favour. Our mum is terminally ill and my sister would use this as a reason why she was bad tempered, yet she hardly visits my mum or help out caring for her. We are in the same town also. Probably a 15 – 20 minute walk. But she still takes the full credit fro being my mums sole carer when it’s me who is my mums sole carer. And one day I just told her straight how she behaves and why people react the way they do towards her. Maybe your sister needs the truth to be told to her about her behaviour? That in the real world we TALK about what is on our mind or if we need help. Life isn’t one big game of charades. People get bored of having to constantly guess what is up with someone.

The parent thing – I don’t know how you know about it. If your parents let you know about it, then you need to tell them that they need to confront her about her bratty behavior, and that if they choose to let her get away with it, you do not want to see it or hear about it. It is too painful to see your parents being treated like that, but on the other hand, it isn’t your job to put a stop to it. Let them know that you don’t want to see the mistreatment in person, and if it continues, you will spend less time around that chaos – you love them, but do not need this kind of extreme chaos in your life unsettling you. If you witness it, then it happened to YOU, and you need to tell your sister how you felt about it, witnessing your father being treated so poorly on his birthday, and tell her to do the drama on her own time. If your parents choose to not enjoy their visit with you, and instead cater to their bratty younger sister while you are visiting your dad on his birthday – you should be mad at them and point it out to them.